Freshers week: How does everyone have friends already?
This individual shares their experience starting university
and experiencing freshers week. Everyone seems to have their group of friends
already, which makes them feel like they are already an outsider, as well as
having to deal with feeling lonely during freshers week.
I have never really had any problems making friends, and neither have I ever felt
lonely, being a twin. I always had my sister with me, but now that I have fled
the nest to study at university, I have had to venture on my own in the big
scary world filled with university teenagers. It is the time of the year where
University students are given a green pass to get as smashed as possible, drink
their guts out, blackout and come home at 4am without any questions. This is
the time known as “Freshers week”. As someone who is not a heavy
drinker and prefers other social activities, right off the bat I knew I would
have a hard time assimilating because I already had to do something I did not
really enjoy in order to meet new people. Nonetheless, I persevered and would
push myself out of my comfort zone in order to meet my new classmates, or who
knows I might never talk to any of these kids again after this week.
Saturday rolls around and it has been a whole week, I look
around my campus and there are already large groups of friends surrounding me.
How has everyone already joined a group in less than a week? I have like one
person I would loosely call my friend. Am I the only one who is having a hard
time making friends? At this point imposter syndrome was in full swing, I
definitely did not belong here. Was I a loner? I have never been a loner, what was
wrong with me? All these thoughts took up most of my time, I started to feel
insecure about myself. Clearly, there had to be some sort of defect because
everywhere I look people have their friends, I am the only one not surrounded
by people. Is this how the next 3 years of university are going to be like?
doubt, nerves and my self-esteem has seemingly disappeared. I might not be the
only one, and it might get better, but as of now I feel hopeless, alone and I
have no confidence in myself. I want to make friends, I have joined societies
and sports clubs, I am saying yes more times than I ever have in my life, but
it seems to be going nowhere. I might sound dramatic, and for my case I really
hope I am, it has only been a week, but my confidence is shattered and the
determination I started with to make friends, has somehow shrunken into
nothing. Is there anyone else out there that feels the same?
I am 19 years old, recently moved to the UK from Denmark to
start my undergraduate degree in Business and Management. I am sharing my story
because I feel like people will relate and that there are many students who are
in the same situation, and dealing with the same thoughts. Maybe if they see that
they are not alone, they won’t feel so lonely anymore.
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